If your elderly parent is no longer a safe driver, a hard conversation about their driving could be the difference between life and death. However, convincing them that their driving is unsafe is almost always a challenge. Before jumping in, there are a few things you can do to help your senior be more receptive to the idea of turning in the keys: Continue reading
Being a family caregiver tends to be an emotional roller-coaster. Whether an elder requires limited help performing some activities or hands-on assistance with just about everything, caring for an aging loved one can become stressful and demanding. If caregivers do not properly manage the emotional burden and practice deliberate self-care, it can lead to burnout, depression, and frustration.
Common Emotional Challenges of Caregiving
Understanding some of the most common emotional effects of caregiving is the first step to addressing them in your own life. Some of the most prevalent feelings experienced by family caregivers include:
- Anger: Many family members who are heavily involved in caring for an aging person feel angry about what is occurring, both to themselves and to their loved one. This anger can stem from the high demands and restrictions that caring for an elder can create, especially if a caregiver is the “default” caregiver or does not receive practical or financial help from other relatives. Caregivers may also feel angry with the person they are caring for, anger towards the disease or aging process, or anger as a response to lack of available solutions.
- Guilt: Guilt is perhaps the most common emotional hurdle experienced by family caregivers. Caregivers may feel guilty when they are unable to cure a loved one’s condition or alleviate their loved one’s pain. Feelings of guilt may also arise when a caregiver becomes frustrated with an aging family member’s behavior, such as forgetfulness or sleeplessness.
- Frustration: Family caregivers tend to feel frustrated with themselves and with the person they are caring for. Frustration and guilt are closely intertwined in the life of the family caregiver, as they tend to cause or worsen one another. Caregivers frequently express that they are frustrated with their loved one for reasons beyond that person’s control, then feel guilty for feeling frustrated and grow further frustrated with their persistent sense of guiltiness. It is a vicious cycle that often pushes caregivers to despair and feel as though the care they are supplying is inadequate.
Ways to Handle the Emotional Toll of Family Caregiving
One of the best ways you can deal with the stresses of caring for a loved one or family member is to turn to someone you can trust. It is invaluable to have a listening ear, whether it be in the form of a friend, fellow family member, or support group. When possible, counseling has proved helpful for many families during times of difficulty. Depending on the circumstances and the level of care required, in-home care is also a great way to alleviate some of the pressure by allowing caregivers to have more time to take care of themselves and other responsibilities without worrying about their loved one’s well being.
Experienced, Compassionate In-Home Care in Jacksonville, Ponte Vedra Beach, and all of Northeast Florida
At A Care Connection, we proud ourselves in delivering quality, personalized care to every client and family we serve. Whether you are looking for respite care, help looking after a family member with Alzheimer’s or dementia, assistance with daily activities of living such as bathing, dressing, etc., or just an extra set of eyes to help you monitor your loved one’s health, we can help.
Call (904) 899-5520 today or schedule your complimentary consultation with one of our Registered Nurses.
If you are a family caregiver living with a parent, grandparent, or other elderly loved one, you know how easy it is to let impatience and exhaustion get the best of you. When you’re spending so much of your life making sure that the health needs of your loved one are met, it’s easy to forget that the words you choose are just as important. In order to better serve you and your family during this challenging season, we’ve compiled a list of a few common, hurtful slips and positive alternatives to use when talking with your senior:
“How could you forget that?”
Odds are that your senior knows their memory and cognition aren’t what they once were. Caregivers will inevitably tire of being asked the same things over and over again, but it’s critical to understand that your senior is likely saddened and frustrated by the fact that they don’t remember things like they used to. Instead of lashing out in frustration when your loved one asks you how to use the TV remote or where the bathroom is for the fiftieth time, try implementing practical solutions to help them.
When your verbal reminders don’t ever seem to sink in, signs, sticky notes, labels, and other visual cues can be very helpful. These can be especially useful if your loved one regularly asks you questions about how to operate devices or where to find certain things.
“What are you talking about?”
It’s fairly normal for seniors to trail off and change the subject during a conversation. Focus and attention span tend to wane as people age, and your loved one may just be experiencing an age-related decline in their ability to concentrate, which is no fault of their own. Instead of pointing out their seemingly unwarranted or unrelated change of subject, you can either roll with it or gently bring the conversation back to the previous subject by saying something like “I was just telling you about the time we took the kids to Disney. Can I show you some pictures?”
“You said that already.”
Aging seniors are going to repeat themselves – it’s inevitable. Verbalizing your frustration when your senior tells you the same story for the eighth time that day will only hurt them unnecessarily. In your senior’s mind, it’s the first time they’ve brought it up, and your reaction can hurt them if you aren’t careful.
Compassionate, Private Home Care in Jacksonville
Caring for an aging loved one can be taxing, overwhelming, and frustrating for reasons beyond memory deterioration. When it comes to getting your senior to doctors appointments, helping them dress and bathe, and keeping track of their treatments and medications, you may benefit from having an extra set of hands. That’s where we come in. A Care Connection is locally owned and operated and we are motivated by compassion and concern for the wellbeing of your family, not by profits.
To make us your Jacksonville home care agency, call (904) 899-5520 today or send us your information to receive a complimentary consultation.
Compassionate Caregiver Support in Jacksonville
If you have an aging family member, you know just how challenging it can be to make time for anything beyond the basics of eating, bathing, doctors appointments, and so on, much less even more time for creating quality experiences with your senior. However, deliberately carving out time for positive interactions and new happy moments are a gift you give to your aging family member. Continue reading
As the days get hotter and the sun’s rays grow more intense, skin cancer is a real risk to your senior’s health.
However, when identified early on, skin cancer is highly treatable. By identifying it quickly, you can help them stay happy, healthy, and safe at home for years to come. But before you can spot it, you have to know Continue reading
When your aging parent begins to forget little things here and there, age is often the culprit.
Most seniors experience age-related forgetfulness and tend to momentarily forget names, dates, appointments, and other details (though the forgotten information tends to come back to them later). These little memory slips are a normal part of the aging process and don’t necessarily stem from Alzheimer’s.
On the other hand, if your parent becomes significantly less able to Continue reading